HEALING RISING
by Lux Gypsum
Conflict Mediation
Conflict Transformation is the practice of engaging in conflict as an opportunity for growth.
As a Conflict Mediator and Restorative Justice Facilitator, I hold a supportive container for you to transform tension into possibility. engage in generative conflict and interpersonal healing.
I cannot ‘fix your problem’ for you
As a Mediator and Facilitator, I guide a process to help you address past and current pain-points in your relationship or community. As a participant, you are responsible for sharing your perspective, needs, and feelings, and being willing to be guided towards transformation and new possibilities. I will be there every step of the way to support you with saying what needs to be said, hearing what needs to be heard, and coming up with your own creative solutions and agreements to restore trust and connection to your dynamic.
This service is for you if:
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You feel frustrated, unseen, or unheard in a relationship with a colleague, partner, or community member
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Your past attempts at addressing the conflict have led to more disconnection and hurt
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You feel hesitant about speaking 1:1 with the person you are in conflict with due to power dynamics
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You are ready to seek understanding, repair, and potentially reconnection
Training & Experience
I am a Certified Mediator in the State of Washington.
I have mediated for dozens of conflicts over the last 5 years, some through the Dispute Resolution Center of Thurston County, where I completed my professional mediation training.
The following trainings have supported me developing
my natural skill in holding conflict:​​
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40-Hour Professional Mediation Training at the Dispute Resolution Center of Thurston County, January 2020
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Advanced Family Mediation Training at the Dispute Resolution Center of Thurston County, November 2020
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Trauma Aware Conflict Transformation at The Village Mystery School, January 2021
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Council 1 Training at SNAP, March 2021
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Introduction to Restorative Justice at SEEDS, April 2021
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Difficult Conversations Workshop with SEEDS, March 2022
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Unwinding the Trauma-Conflict Web with Education for Education for Racial Equity, September 2022 - December 2022
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Transformative Justice Course with Spring Up, February 2023
Testimonials
WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING
"Lux was very good at mediating a very difficult conversation I needed to have, from helping to coordinate scheduling to guiding the conversation. They were clear about the structure of the conversation, timing, and boundaries, and remained present in guiding throughout. I felt incredibly supported and safe while navigating a very emotional and triggering conversation. They were neutral and non judgemental. I walked away from the conversation with much to process, but with a better sense of closure and trajectory toward healing. I couldn't have had this conversation without their help. I highly recommend Lux for mediation."
~ Clare L.
FAQ
What is the mediation process like?
Intake: I always start mediations with an intake process, meeting with each participant separately for up to an hour to fully hear and understand the situation from their perspective. In these sessions, I will ask you clarifying questions about your situation and about what you need in order to feel supported in the mediation. I will then go over the process with you, receive your input on the guidelines we hold for our session, and answer any questions you have about mediation.
Assessment: I also use the intake process to assess whether mediation is the right fit for the situation - mediation is not possible when participants are unwilling to hear another perspective, and not appropriate in situations with active physical, sexual, or psychological abuse. If I feel that your situation is a good fit for mediation, we will arrange a date and a time container for the session.
Mediation Set Up: For the mediation itself, my role as the mediator is to guide the process and your role as the participants is to share your concerns and perspectives to provide the content for the discussion. After I open the space with a grounding exercise, an overview of the process ahead, and our guidelines for the conversation, each client will have uninterrupted time to share their personal perspective. You will then have the option to co-create an agenda for your conversation, which is especially helpful if there are multiple topics or trigger points driving your conflict.
Mediation Process: After that, the space is open for conversation between the participants to discuss each agenda item, make proposals, and hopefully come to some agreements. I will intervene as needed to check for mutual understanding, uphold our guidelines, and redirect your conversation back to the item you are wanting to discuss. Both the participants and the mediators have the option to call a caucus - a one-on-one check in with each participant and the mediator - at any time if that feels helpful to move the conversation forward. I will take notes tracking any agreements you make to share with you after the session. If necessary, we will use the last few minutes of our time to schedule another mediation session.
Can I have a support person present?
Within an interpersonal 2-party mediation, each participant is welcome to have one support person present in a non-speaking role. You can talk to your support person during breaks or a caucus (private meeting between you and the mediators). If you want support people to be directly involved in the mediated conversation, request a multi-party mediation or a restorative community circle.
Restorative Justice
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Create opportunities for repair, apology, clarifying boundaries,
and restoring belonging after harm has happened between
community members.