CONFLICT MEDIATION

FOR WHEN CONFLICT
IS TOO CHARGED

TO HOLD ALONE

Sometimes in conflict, we get stuck– in patterns of avoidance, defensiveness, reactivity, and blame.

When this is happening, it’s time to seek support.

WHEN TO SEEK MEDIATION

You feel repeatedly unseen, unheard, or misunderstood by a partner, friend, family member, colleague - someone who you are connected to and want to be on good terms with

Someone in your life has expressed frustration or hurt toward you, and you feel confused, misunderstood, or in over your head

You’ve tried talking about the conflict, but your conversations seem to go in circles or end in blowups or shutdowns

You are ready to finally find clarity, closure, understanding, repair, or reconnection

WHAT MEDIATION OFFERS

An unbiased and intentional space where hard, necessary conversations can happen and maybe even feel good.

When navigated with wisdom and compassion, conflict becomes a doorway to healing— an opportunity to tend to deeper needs, patterns, and wounds beneath the surface.

As your Mediator, I’ll hold a supportive, structured container where you can:

Gain new perspective on your conflict dynamic
Interrupt dysfunctional communication patterns
Be fully heard in your experience
Understand the impact you’re having on one another
Each take responsibility for your behavior
Collaborate on repair, boundaries, and next steps
Rebuild trust or negotiate boundaries, with respect

"Lux was able to help heal a fracture in our family that was causing pain to all involved. Lux met with us as a group and individually and patiently fostered communication. Most of all, Lux created a safe place for us to share our feelings and be open knowing that we were supported by an expert facilitator.

I highly recommend Lux as a conflict resolution specialist. Thanks to Lux, the communication in our family is open again and we are healing."

"Lux provides a qualitatively different approach to human connection as it relates to conflict. Their direct communication, steadiness, pacing and deep tender care for the process of collective healing is a gift."

UNSURE IF MEDIATION IS RIGHT FOR YOU?

Book a free 30-minute curiosity call

if you’re unsure, overwhelmed, or simply need to talk through whether mediation is the right next step for your conflict.

Schedule A Curiosity Call

Ready to book?

Fill out this intake form, and Lux will reach out to you shortly to schedule a pre-mediation intake call.

TRAINING & EXPERIENCE

I am a Certified Mediator in the State of Washington and have mediated dozens of conflicts over the last 6 years, both independently and through the Dispute Resolution Center of Thurston County.

My particular style of mediation is grounded in trauma-informed practice, nervous system awareness, and transformative justice principles.
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Trainings Include:

Transformative Justice – Spring Up (2023)
Unwinding the Trauma-Conflict Web – Education for Racial Equity (2022)
Difficult Conversations & Restorative Justice – SEEDS (2021–22)
Council Training – SNAP (2021)
Trauma-Aware Conflict Transformation – Village Mystery School (2021)
Advanced Family Mediation Training – DRC Thurston County (2020)
40-Hour Professional Mediation Training – DRC Thurston County (2020)

RATES

For a standard two-party mediation, I charge $400–$1,000 sliding scale for the whole package*

This includes:

1-hour individual intake calls with both participants
Coordination and logistics to set up the mediated conversation
One 2–3 hour mediation session
Optional 30-minute follow-up calls with each party

The total cost is typically split between participants unless otherwise agreed (but I do not mediate this financial decision).

A $150–$250 sliding scale deposit opens your case and goes toward the total cost (or covers the cost of your intake calls if we decide not to move forward with mediation).

*Unique situations require unique processes, so rates can vary.

For example, rates may increase if…

there are more than 2 people involved
you require in-person services
multiple mediation sessions are needed
More 1:1 sessions are recommended before mediation

If cost is a barrier, reach out and we can talk about payment plans or partial trades.

FAQ

Are mediations always successful?

A "successful mediation" doesn’t always lead to a relationship being restored to a state of harmony and closeness — sometimes “success” looks like clarifying boundaries that will support a more functional dynamic.

I cannot guarantee resolution or reconnection in this work—because real relationship carries risk, and you are ultimately responsible for how you show up in the container.

Regardless, mediation does makes successful repair significantly more likely by providing a supportive structure and loving guidance to help you break through unhealthy communication patterns and access new possibilities.

What is the mediation process like?

Intake calls: Private 1:1 calls with all parties to understand your experience, clarify needs, co-create guidelines, and determine whether the situation is appropriate for mediation.

Assessment: During the intake calls, I will assess whether mediation is the right fit for your situation. Mediation is not appropriate when high levels of abuse are present or one or both parties are staunchly unwilling to hear another perspective.

Mediation: Check-ins → Grounding → Sharing intentions → Outlining topics → Structured discussion → Facilitated support with accessing
mutual understanding and co-creating agreements if necessary →
Closing reflections & commitments.

Can I have a support person?

In 2-party mediations, each participant may bring one support person in a minimal-speaking role, if both parties consent. More involved support requires a multi-party mediation or restorative circle.

NOT QUITE READY FOR MEDIATION?

You can always start with learning more about conflict & communication.

Check out my on-demand workshop: The Fundamentals of Conflict & Communication

OR purchase my conflict workbook: Conflict Invites Deeper Intimacy